Riding with your significant other can be awesome, but challenging at times, especially if you are a newbie. So many emotions and pattern behaviour from everyday life can seep into what should be fun recreation time, that both partners are left feeling frustrated.
I have a solution! Shut your pie hole, eloquently translates to can you please stop speaking to me at this moment, for I can see it will not facilitate the situation I have found myself in. If you add the word honey after it makes it sound loving, in an assertive kind of way.
What situations are conducive to shutting one’s pie hole you might ask?
Stupid stucks. We all make them from time to time, and the moment we can feel that loss of rpm and our track dig in we realize our stupid mistake. It absolutely doesn’t help when another rider comes by to state the obvious, especially if it is your significant other. If he starts razzing your arse it may be time to bust out the “Shut your pie hole honey”.
Fear. Everyone has different risk tolerance levels, and new riders have the cards stacked against them as they are bombarded by the unknown perpetually throughout the day. It is completely logical to fear the unknown. If your partner starts making fun of your very real fears, minimizing them into something ridiculous and mocking, it is absolutely time to bust out the “Shut your pie hole honey”, for no one but you understands your level of comfort in a situation, nor do they have the right to define your own personal emotions.
I recently received a call from a woman who was learning on a brand new chassis. Rather than allowing her the luxury of getting used to her sled in simple terrain, her husband chose a more aggressive ride, talking down to her as she struggled to find her legs. Everyone needs time to get used to a new chassis, no matter how long they have been riding, or if they are a man or woman. If your partner isn’t giving you that time to get used to your chassis.. you will need to take charge, perhaps find different riding companions, and most certainly tell him to “Shut his pie hole, honey”.
“Trish why did you hit that tree and break an A arm!!!!! Those things are expensive!!! You should have turned out sooner!! Way to wreck your sled”…Oh yup my hackles go up with this one. You know what? I woke up in the morning and set my goal for the day. It was to nail the largest conifer in the forest and break an A-arm so I could spend my hard earned dollars on a part I ruined leaving me zero fun money for Sleeman Honey Browns. Seriously no one wants to intentionally wreck their sled, but it’s all a part of learning and pushing your skills and boundaries. Sometimes Schizzle happens, and it happens to everyone. Don’t take any Schizzle ladies! Simply look him straight in the eyes, laugh and announce “Shut your pie hole honey for it’s all a part of snowmobiling”
On a recent thread on the Throttle Chix facebook page a lady rider shared her frustration with being over instructed when it wasn’t necessary. Sometimes women need to see their own lines, rather than hearing the incessant drone of “follow my line and go around the blah blah blah blah blah blah blah.. blah blah blah blah”.. yup Kev and I go through this once in a while.. If I ask for instruction, bring it, but if I don’t please let me try to figure it out in my mind. I am one that has to see a line in my mind before I will attempt it. I sometimes see a route that he didn’t or see a line that is more conducive to my skill set. Kev has mad skills, mine would be described as “a little bit cranky-skills” compared to his Mad skills. Let me figure it out even if I fail. If he continues to micro-manage me I absolutely will tell him to “shut his pie hole, honey”.
Below is proof that if I have any questions, I will ask. Meteor Mine Hillclimb Race 2014, I was asking everyone for advice. “You want me to climb that?!!” was my initial response looking at the course and the chute to top out at.
Keeping it light and fun during the learning stage of snowmobiling is imperative. There are going to be days that challenge you to the point you consider hanging up that helmet but don’t. It’s all a part of snowmobiling, and everyone feels that same frustration while learning. Laugh at yourself, and try not to take minor setbacks personally. We, women, are emotional creatures, and if we let ourselves go down the negative, self-loathing rabbit hole, it can be near impossible to climb out. This is why it is beneficial to have other female riding buddies who’ll absolutely understand your mindset.
Our Cycle Works Riding clinics were developed specifically for this reason. Women think different, ride different and react differently to a variety of situations and will learn better from other women riders in an environment where they feel supported and safe.
All in all, we are very lucky to have dudes that want us out there riding with them, rather than staying home in the kitchen without socks on. We have a wonderful opportunity to create lasting memories with epic adventures out there in the backcountry. It is so much fun to be treated like one of the guys riding with our crew and truly heart melting to see the look of pride on Kev’s face when I pull off a new skill or techy line. I seriously love and cherish my Snow Stud, and get even more twitterpated watching the ridiculously techy lines he makes look so elementary.
Men, if you’re reading this, you are REALLY really REALLY fortunate to have a woman who wants to get out there and ride. No more questions of what to do on a Sunday, for the both of you know you’ll be heading out and busting up some freshies. When you feel frustration creep in, perhaps rather than doing any of the above irritating traits we’ve discussed, give her a huge hug, tell her you are proud of her, and then promptly “Shut your pie hole…….. honey”.